About the 6:8:1
A gentle framework for healing when you're not okay — yet.
The 6:8:1 Method isn't a built in a weekend workshop or a mindset coaching course.
It’s a method for people who have been through real-life stuff: grief, loss, caregiving, breakdown, trauma, burnout, identity loss — and are trying to figure out who they are now.
What Does 6:8:1 Actually Stand For?
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6 years as a full-time carer for my dad
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8 years surviving the emotional wreckage that followed — the grief, anger, guilt, exhaustion, numbness
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1 year of piecing together something new — not a perfect life, but one I could feel I could live in again
These numbers are mine.
But the phases behind them? They’re yours too.
The Three Phases of the 681 Method:
1. Survive
This is where most people land first. You’re numb, exhausted, irritable, or flat. You feel like you're failing — but you're not. You're burnt out, grieving, or in shock.
This phase gives you permission to rest, strip back, and just exist without shame.
What you need here:
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Less advice
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More sleep
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Boundaries that feel selfish but are life-saving
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Relief from performance and pretending
"The goal here isn’t to fix anything. It’s just to keep breathing."
2. Surface
Once you're no longer drowning, you might feel stuck. This is the part where you start noticing your wants again.
You’re still fragile, but flickers of curiosity return.
You start to notice what feels good, safe, possible.
What this phase includes:
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Tiny experiments in energy and creativity
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Identifying your non-negotiable's
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Getting angry (yes, that’s part of healing too)
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Saying “I don’t know what’s next — but I don’t want to stay here.”
This is the turning point where you stop running from the pain and start walking with it.
3. Rebuild
You’re not “healed” — but you’ve survived. You’ve surfaced.
Now, slowly, gently, you start building something new.
This part isn’t about fixing the past.
It’s about building a life that works with who you are now.
What this includes:
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Creating new routines and rhythms
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Exploring new income (if old work no longer fits)
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Reclaiming your voice, time, energy
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Writing a new chapter without shame for how long it took
What Makes 681 Different?
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It was written from inside the grief and trauma not from a finish line
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There are no “shoulds” or timelines
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You’ll never be told to “just be positive” or “manifest better”
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It’s gentle, grounded, and written for people who’ve already had to be strong for too long
Who is this for?
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Caregivers
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Grievers
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Burnt-out mothers, daughters, partners
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People who’ve lost someone, lost themselves, or are trying to find their way back to something
If traditional self-help made you feel like a failure…
This was written for you.
What’s included in the 6:8:1 Method?
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The 681 Book: raw, reflective chapters with emotional honesty and no fluff
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The Companion Journal: to help you write through each phase in your own words
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Free Resources: downloads and worksheets to gently guide your healing
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Workshops & Talks: for groups or individuals who want deeper support